You can think your way through anything.
Except this.
The Decision-Making Method is the complete inventory for spouses in an affair who want to make the most important decision of their life from genuine clarity. One that's grounded, private, and entirely their own.
An affair reshapes how you see your marriage, your partner, and yourself; which is why even the most capable people still can't think their way to a clear answer. The Decision-Making Method is the private, structured inventory that cuts through that distortion, so the decision you make is one you can stand behind for the rest of your life, from licensed therapist and Beyond Infidelity author Lauren LaRusso, based on thousands of cases.
$497 or two payments of $257
Private · Self-paced · Yours for life · Guaranteed
What this decision is actually asking of you
You've analyzed this from every angle; read online posts, run the scenarios, turned it over at 2am more times than you'd admit. And the loop still won't close. For someone who has solved every hard problem they've faced, that's the most difficult and disorienting part.
What you're facing is a question about who you are and what you want from the rest of your life. A question like that resolves through honest, structured self-knowledge. Both relationships are real; both matter. And underneath the decision about either one sits the thing you can already feel: the gap between the life that looks right and the life that would feel true.
The Decision-Making Method gives you that structure. It builds the clarity a real decision comes from, so whatever you choose is conscious, honest, and yours to stand behind for the rest of your life. The choice stays yours. This work makes it clear.
Imagine reclaiming a life where you...
✔ Wake up each morning knowing exactly where you stand. No more 2am thought spirals, no more of the constant flip-flopping that's kept you stuck for so long
✔ Make a decision that comes from your values and your clarity, not from fear, guilt, or exhaustion
​✔ Look at both relationships honestly, without the fog distorting everything you think and see
✔ Finally stop living in two worlds and start building one life you actually chose
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✔ Stand behind your decision six months, a year, five years from now — and know it was the right one for you
Real People. Real Lives. Real Results.
People who were where you are now, in their own words.
(Names and details changed to protect their privacy.)
"Because of this program, that feeling of knowing still hasn't left me, even when it has become challenging. I am clear about how and why I am making my choice for myself, not for either partner. The risks of losing either or both are real, but because I gained clarity I can proceed with confidence."
Laura K.
Married 22 years, decided to leave her marriage
"I took your course, and it helped me make a rational decision, and not to jump ship at a time where that's what I was feeling. So I THANK YOU for that. Your work is really meaningful and helped me gain and keep clarity. I realized that I needed this experience to force me to grow, to stop running from responsibilities and take ownership of my life."
Jason C.
Married 19 years, decided to recommit to his marriage
"Without this program, I would have lost either or both partners, and the family I've created without owning myself and my story. I have a real vision for the future and a sense of purpose that is helping me to show up as who I want to become.
Frank T.
Married 27 years, decided to leave his marriage
Grounded in Personal Experience
+ Professional Expertise
I'm Lauren LaRusso; a licensed psychotherapist with 15 years of clinical experience, an affair specialist, and the author of Beyond Infidelity (Penguin Random House).
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I work with people on every side of an affair; unfaithful partners, betrayed spouses, and affair partners. I don't take a side, and I don't shame anyone. My only job is to help you see clearly.
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I also know this terrain from the inside. Years ago, an affair ended my marriage, and the most important decision of our lives got made in reaction and overwhelm instead of clarity. I know what it is to stand in that fog and not trust your own judgment; and I know what it costs.
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That's why I built the Decision-Making Method: the map I wish I'd had then. It's the depth of months of private coaching, delivered privately, at your own pace, built around your values, your situation, and what you actually want. I've now guided hundreds of people through it; people in the exact position you're in, carrying exactly what you're carrying.
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Most guidance on affairs comes with an agenda; save the marriage, assign blame, pick a side. Mine doesn't. I'm here to tell you the truth, not what's easy to hear, so the decision you make is genuinely yours.
You're not alone, and you don't have to figure this out on your own.
Inside The Decision-Making Method:
Module 2
Take an honest measure of both relationships and the life you're living between them; the depth that would take months of private coaching, at your own pace.
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Surface the real costs of living in two worlds
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Assess your genuine connection in each relationship
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Catch the cognitive distortions that steer the decision
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Weigh the affair's true impact, clearly​
A $397 value
Module 3
Separate what you feel from what's true, in both relationships, and look honestly at where each path actually leads.
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Tell feelings apart from facts in each relationship
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Clarify what you gain and what you lose with each choice
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Use guided visioning to see each future realistically​
A $547 value
Lifetime Access
This isn't a course you finish once and close.
The decision you make will get tested; by a hard day, a doubt, a moment with your family. When it does, the work you've done is there for you. Return to any module, anytime, to remember how you got to clarity and why it holds. Includes every future update.
Choose The Decision-Making Method Plan That's Best For You
Everything in The Method; four guided modules, the full inventory, and lifetime access. The work inside would take months of private coaching to reach. What it returns isn't measured in dollars; it's the clarity to make the most important decision of your life once, and well.
My Guarantee to You
​Move through the Method and do the work honestly. If it doesn't give you clearer footing for your decision, email us within 30 days for a full refund
FAQs
What does my purchase show up as on my credit card?
The statement descriptor for your purchase is 'LL CONS.'
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How long will I have access?
Forever. When you enroll, you get lifetime access to the course and every future update. This work is not something you complete once and close the tab — many people return to specific modules months or years later to reaffirm their work.
Is this right for my specific situation?
The Decision-Making Method is a process built for spouses in an affair — whether the affair is ongoing or recently ended, emotional or physical, discovered by a spouse or not. The work inside is about you; what the affair is illuminating for you, what you actually want, and who you actually are underneath the circumstances. The specifics of your situation do not change what the inventory reveals. The process meets you where you are.
How much time does this take?
You move through it at your own pace. The course is designed to be completed over several weeks, but some people successfully move through it quickly in one focused stretch, while others spread it across months and find that time valuable. What matters is that you do the work honestly — not how fast.
What do I need technology-wise?
A computer or mobile device and an internet connection. Everything is delivered through a private, password-protected portal you can access anytime, from anywhere.
Is this private?
One of the most valuable aspects of this course is that it's completely private and on your terms. It's built to be consumed in a way that protects your privacy and process.
I've already worked with a therapist. How is this different?
Therapy is valuable, and this is not a replacement for it. What the Decision-Making Method offers that individual therapy often does not is a structured, thorough guided inventory specifically designed for the decision in front of you. Most therapists are trained to hold space; this process is designed to give you forward motion. Many people who come to the Method have already been in therapy for months. They come here because they need something more specific than what therapy alone has been able to give them.
What if I'm not ready to be fully honest yet?
This is important — and it is exactly where this work begins. You do not need to arrive with all the answers. You need to arrive willing to look. The course is designed to meet you where you are and move you forward from there; at your own pace, in your own time, with no one watching.
What if my marriage or affair ends anyway?
The program does not determine the outcome — it determines the quality of the decision that produces it. A decision made from genuine self-knowledge holds, regardless of what it is. That means whatever happens on the other side — whether you recommit to your marriage, build something new, or end a relationship you once thought you couldn't — you will have made it consciously, honestly, and from a place you can stand behind for the rest of your life. Since there are no guarantees in relationships, the solid personal inventory gained from this course is worth everything.
What if I start and don't finish?
You have lifetime access, so there is no "didn't finish" — only "haven't finished yet." This program waits for you. Many people begin, pause for a few weeks, and return when they're ready. That is part of how the program is designed.