When you're stuck between your marriage and your affair, you're not living - you're in purgatory.
You're ready to do the work to get unstuck: you just need the way forward.
Look no further.
When you get stuck in life, you don't stay there. That's not who you are. But this is different territory; and where you used to trust yourself, you don't anymore.
You're a doer; someone who has built a life they're proud of, one others envy, and now, you're here to figure out how to protect the life you love, while solving for the life you've discovered outside of it.
The Decision-Making Method is the only structured, comprehensive and completely private program that walks you out of affair confusion and into personal clarity. Your road forward awaits.
Private · Self-paced · Bills as "LL CO"
Hi I'm Lauren LaRusso
Licensed Therapist, Affair Specialist, and Author
Every day, I help ambitious people — people who know they are meant for more than living between two worlds — get unstuck from an affair and into the better life waiting for them on the other side.
I bring a unique and powerful lens built from professional expertise and personal experience that's helped countless people change the way they move forward in the face of infidelity. That's what I hand you inside The Decision-Making Method.
I know this terrain from the inside.
In 2018, the shock of affair discovery ended my own marriage. And the most important decision of my life got made in reaction and overwhelm instead of clarity. I know exactly what it costs to spin in a place where you don't trust your own judgment, and feel paralyzed by the magnitude of loss on either side of the decision.
That's why I built The Decision-Making Method: the exact program I wish had existed then. It provides the sharpest discernment process available to people who feel stuck between their marriage and their affair — whether they've been stuck for ten months or ten years.
It's the focused process that months in regular therapy won't get you even close to.
And it's all accessed privately, at your own pace; with your values, your unique situation, and your priorities as the rubric.
Most guidance out there on affairs comes with an agenda or is overly general. The Decision-Making Method is the opposite. It's agenda free by design, and instead it guides you through the exact areas that would have continued keeping you stuck; so the decision it reveals is genuinely yours.
It's already helped hundreds of people come out the other side with a confidence they couldn't have found on their own.
Click on the video to learn how The Decision-Making Method makes the difference.
The part that gets even the smartest person stuck.
Since an affair inherently reshapes how you see your marriage, your partner, and yourself, it renders even the most capable people stuck, spinning their wheels for months and often years.
There's a reason for it: Thinking your way to an answer when you're in an affair is akin to climbing Mt. Everest without a guide.
The real risk is not knowing just how critical it is to have a guided, thorough, and structured process, one professionally designed to resolve your unique limbo, at your fingertips.
So if you've analyzed this from every angle; read online posts, run the scenarios, turned it over at 2am more times than you'd admit... And you're no less stuck than you were before... You're exactly where most people are.
The problem on top of the problem?
You're facing the question of who you are and what you want from the rest of your life. And it's one that affects the life you've worked hard to build, and a lot of people you care about, in very specific ways.
A question like that resolves only through honest, structured self-knowledge. Both relationships are real and both matter to you. And the choice is impossible as long as you're comparing the known to the unknown.
The Decision-Making Method gives you the step-by-step structure that more thinking will never achieve.
It builds the clarity and confidence that yields a real decision, based in facts and reality, not fantasies or fictions. It's designed to walk you through your specific situation with your specific values and priorities, so that whatever you choose is conscious, honest, and yours.
Imagine reclaiming a life where you:
Wake up each morning knowing exactly where you stand. No more 2am thought spirals, no more of the constant flip-flopping that's kept you stuck for so long
Made a decision that comes from your values and your clarity, not from fear, guilt, or exhaustion
Look at both relationships honestly, without affair-fog clouding your choices
Finally stop living in two worlds and start building one life and one self you actually chose
Stand behind your decision six months, a year, five years from now — and know with peace and confidence it was the right one for you
Real Lives and Real Results.
The impact of The Method for people who were where you are now,
in their own words.
(Names and details changed to protect their privacy.)
"Because of this program, that feeling of knowing still hasn't left me, even when it has become challenging. I am clear about how and why I am making my choice for myself, not for either partner. The risks of losing either or both are real, but because I gained clarity I can proceed with confidence."
Laura K.
Married 22 years, decided to leave her marriage
"I took your course, and it helped me make a rational decision, and not to jump ship at a time where that's what I was feeling. So I THANK YOU for that. Your work is really meaningful and helped me gain and keep clarity. I realized that I needed this experience to force me to grow, to stop running from responsibilities and take ownership of my life."
Jason C.
Married 19 years, decided to recommit to his marriage
"Without this program, I would have lost either or both partners, and the family I've created without owning myself and my story. I have a real vision for the future and a sense of purpose that is helping me to show up as who I want to become.
Frank T.
Married 27 years, decided to leave his marriage
Inside The Decision-Making Method:
Module 2
Take an honest measure of both relationships and the life you're living between them; the depth that would take months of private coaching, at your own pace.
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Surface the real costs of living in two worlds
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Assess your genuine connection in each relationship
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Catch the cognitive distortions that steer the decision
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Weigh the affair's true impact, clearly
Choose Your Decision-Making Method Plan
Everything in The Method — four guided modules, the full inventory, and lifetime access. Cover the ground that hands you tens of thousands of dollars in value from my work with my highest level private clients, and makes it yours for only $497.
Indecision is also a decision — one that's been making itself for months or years.
Make the choice yours, and begin to reclaim the one precious life you deserve.
FAQs
What does my purchase show up as on my credit card?
The statement descriptor for your purchase is 'LL CO.'
How long will I have access?
Forever. When you enroll, you get lifetime access to the course and every future update. This work is not something you complete once and close the tab — many people return to specific modules months or years later to reaffirm their work.
Is this right for my specific situation?
The Decision-Making Method is a process built for spouses in an affair — whether the affair is ongoing or recently ended, emotional or physical, discovered by a spouse or not. The work inside is about you; what the affair is illuminating for you, what you actually want, and who you actually are underneath the circumstances. The specifics of your situation do not change what the inventory reveals. The process meets you where you are.
How much time does this take?
You move through it at your own pace. The course is designed to be completed over several weeks, but some people successfully move through it quickly in one focused stretch, while others spread it across months and find that time valuable. What matters is that you do the work honestly — not how fast.
What do I need technology-wise?
A computer or mobile device and an internet connection. Everything is delivered through a private, password-protected portal you can access anytime, from anywhere.
Is this private?
One of the most valuable aspects of this course is that it's completely private and on your terms. It's built to be consumed in a way that protects your privacy and process.
I've already worked with a therapist. How is this different?
Therapy is valuable, and this is not a replacement for it. What the Decision-Making Method offers that individual therapy often does not is a structured, thorough guided inventory specifically designed for the decision in front of you. Most therapists are trained to hold space; this process is designed to give you forward motion. Many people who come to the Method have already been in therapy for months. They come here because they need something more specific than what therapy alone has been able to give them.
What if I'm not ready to be fully honest yet?
This is important — and it is exactly where this work begins. You do not need to arrive with all the answers. You need to arrive willing to look. This course is designed for people who are serious about resolving the choice between their marriage and their affair, and it meets you where you are but does require you to be committed to the process.
What if my marriage or affair ends anyway?
The program does not determine the outcome — it determines the quality of the decision that produces it. A decision made from genuine self-knowledge holds, regardless of what it is. That means whatever happens on the other side — whether you recommit to your marriage, build something new, or end a relationship you once thought you couldn't — you will have made it consciously, honestly, and from a place you can stand behind for the rest of your life. Since there are no guarantees in relationships, the solid personal inventory gained from this course is worth everything.
What if I start and don't finish?
You have lifetime access, so there is no "didn't finish" — only "haven't finished yet." This program waits for you. Many people begin, pause for a few weeks, and return when they're ready. That is part of how the program is designed.
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