Know what you want.
Instead of what each person wants from you.
Trust yourself again.
Make a decision you'll still stand behind in ten years.
One life.
Live whole, in one reality, instead of split across two.
Words of encouragement from people who worked The Decision-Making Method
(Identifying details changed to protect privacy.)
"Because of this program, that feeling of knowing still hasn't left me, even when it has become challenging. I am clear about how and why I am making my choice for myself, not for either partner. The risks of losing either or both are real, but because I gained clarity I can proceed with confidence."
Laura K.
Married 22 years, decided to leave her marriage
"I took your course, and it helped me make a rational decision, and not to jump ship at a time where that's what I was feeling. So I THANK YOU for that. Your work is really meaningful and helped me gain and keep clarity. I realized that I needed this experience to force me to grow, to stop running from responsibilities and take ownership of my life."
Jason C.
Married 19 years, decided to recommit to his marriage
"Without this program, I would have lost either or both partners, and the family I've created without owning myself and my story. I have a real vision for the future and a sense of purpose that is helping me to show up as who I want to become.
Frank T.
Married 27 years, decided to leave his marriage
Every other approach starts with stay or leave.
The Method starts with you.
Decision one: will you do the work on yourself? Decision two: the relationship.
That answer comes out of the first.
People stay stuck for years comparing the two people, and the people change week to week.
Who you want to be doesn't.
This is for you if
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You've been stuck between two lives for months or years.
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You've analyzed it from every angle and you still don't trust your answer.
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You're done comparing two people and are ready to do the deeper work to unlock what's next.
I'm Lauren LaRusso.
Licensed Therapist, Affair Specialist, Author.
Every day, I help ambitious people who have built a life they care about deeply — people who know they are meant for more than living stuck between two worlds — find their way forward.
With over fifteen years of experience working with every side of infidelity, I bring a perspective and approach that helps people transcend the stories they've been told and reclaim what's theirs.
That's what I hand you inside The Decision-Making Method. The tools to discern what's real, the path to claim your next step with confidence, and the kind of clarity that lasts.
I know this terrain from the inside.
In 2018, my own marriage ended with the crisis of infidelity. The most important decision of my life got made in reaction and overwhelm instead of clarity. I know exactly what it costs when you don't trust your own judgment and feel paralyzed by loss on either side of the decision.
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That's why I built The Decision-Making Method: It's the complete program I wish had existed then. It provides the sharpest discernment process for spouses in an affair who feel stuck between two lives and two relationships.
The Method is the focused process that compresses months of the work I do with my private clients into one privately accessed, self-paced container.​
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Most guidance out there on affairs comes with an agenda or is overly general. The Decision-Making Method is the opposite. It's agenda free by design, and instead it guides you through the exact areas that would have continued keeping you stuck; so the decision it reveals is genuinely yours.
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Picture your life on the other side
You wake up in one reality, and it's the one you chose.
You stop rehearsing two futures. You're living the one you decided.
You trust yourself again, and that feeling of knowing doesn't leave.
What's Inside
THE DECISION-MAKING METHOD
$997
or two payments of $517
The ground I cover with my highest-level private clients, at your own pace.
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The four parts of The Method, on demand
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Video modules that guide you step-by-step
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Guided exercises and prompts in every module
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The guided visioning practice, for seeing each future clearly
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Lifetime access, all updates included
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Completely private
FAQs
What does my purchase show up as on my credit card?
The statement descriptor for your purchase is 'LL CO.'
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How long will I have access?
Forever. When you enroll, you get lifetime access to the course and every future update. This work is not something you complete once and close the tab — many people return to specific modules months or years later to reaffirm their work.
Is this right for my specific situation?
The Decision-Making Method is a process built for spouses in an affair — whether the affair is ongoing or recently ended, emotional or physical, discovered by a spouse or not. The work inside is about you; what the affair is illuminating for you, what you actually want, and who you actually are underneath the circumstances. The specifics of your situation do not change what the inventory reveals. The process meets you where you are.
How much time does this take?
You move through it at your own pace. The course is designed to be completed over several weeks, but some people successfully move through it quickly in one focused stretch, while others spread it across months and find that time valuable. What matters is that you do the work honestly — not how fast.
What do I need technology-wise?
A computer or mobile device and an internet connection. Everything is delivered through a private, password-protected portal you can access anytime, from anywhere.
Is this private?
One of the most valuable aspects of this course is that it's completely private and on your terms. It's built to be consumed in a way that protects your privacy and process.
I've already worked with a therapist. How is this different?
Therapy is valuable, and this is not a replacement for it. What the Decision-Making Method offers that individual therapy often does not is a structured, thorough guided inventory specifically designed for the decision in front of you. Most therapists are trained to hold space; this process is designed to give you forward motion. Many people who come to the Method have already been in therapy for months. They come here because they need something more specific than what therapy alone has been able to give them.
What if I'm not ready to be fully honest yet?
This is important — and it is exactly where this work begins. You do not need to arrive with all the answers. You need to arrive willing to look. This course is designed for people who are serious about resolving the choice between their marriage and their affair, and it meets you where you are but does require you to be committed to the process.
What if my marriage or affair ends anyway?
The program does not determine the outcome — it determines the quality of the decision that produces it. A decision made from genuine self-knowledge holds, regardless of what it is. That means whatever happens on the other side — whether you recommit to your marriage, build something new, or end a relationship you once thought you couldn't — you will have made it consciously, honestly, and from a place you can stand behind for the rest of your life. Since there are no guarantees in relationships, the solid personal inventory gained from this course is worth everything.
What if I start and don't finish?
You have lifetime access, so there is no "didn't finish" — only "haven't finished yet." This program waits for you. Many people begin, pause for a few weeks, and return when they're ready. That is part of how the program is designed.