THE DECISION -MAKING METHOD FOR SPOUSES IN AN AFFAIR
See Your Choice Clearly, Free Yourself from Living Between Two Lives, and Become One Whole Person You Can Trust Again
The 4-week full inventory that walks you through your marriage and your affair, so you can make a decision you can stand behind without regret, and live one life in full integrity again.
Private | Judgment Free | Step-by-Step
Know what you want.
Instead of continuing to react to what each person wants from you.
Trust yourself again.
Make a decision you'll still stand behind in ten years, and live in with peace.
Live whole.
Finally live one life again, and feel confident in that choice.
You can't know whether to stay or leave until you can see it all clearly.
Decision one is simple: will you do the work on yourself? If your answer is yes, The Method is your next step.
Decision two is about the relationship itself. Is it durable? What do I want for my life? What's right and what will actually work? And how do I know?
That answer comes out of the first, and The Decision-Making Method walks you through it.
This is for you if
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You've been stuck between two lives for months or years.
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You've analyzed it from every angle and you still don't trust your answer.
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You're done comparing two people and are ready to do the deeper work to unlock what's next.
Client success story: Mark C.:
Mark found me through Instagram and joined the Decision-Making Method for unfaithful spouses. He worked through it with focus and filled 29 pages of notes along the way. By the end, he had moved, in his words, “from uncertainty around next steps to informed confidence.” He knew what he needed to do. Doing it was harder. The easier path kept pulling at him: stay in a marriage where neither of them was happy, because it felt simpler, cost less, and spared everyone a painful conversation.
Through the Method, he came to see that taking better care of himself was also a way of caring for his spouse, who was just as unhappy and just as unable to end things. A few live sessions helped him get ready for the conversation itself.
When Mark finally talked with his spouse, he felt relief right away, hope for the future, and certainty that he had done the right thing. “For the first time,” he wrote, “I both knew it was the right thing to do and I was ready to walk into the fire.”
Welcome,
I'm Lauren LaRusso
Affair Specialist, Licensed Therapist, and Author of 'Beyond Infidelity' (Penguin Random House, 2026)
The day I found my husband’s pros and cons list about staying in our marriage, we had already been living in limbo for months. It was 2018. We had a baby at home and a full life we had made together, and he was bouncing back and forth between our marriage and his affair.
He was in his own therapy, we were in couples counseling, and still nothing changed. Everything we had was on the line, and he was trying to decide whether to recommit to our marriage or leave for his affair with a list.
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When he made the decision to divorce, it was reactive. He didn’t have the structure or the right questions to see the whole picture: both relationships, the facts apart from the feelings, the future each choice would bring, and who he wanted to be. A list could never give him that.
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As a therapist, I could see exactly what was missing, and I see it every day in over 15 years in private practice: people stuck between two lives for months or years, trying to make the biggest decision of their lives without the right questions.
So I created the Decision-Making Method. It hands you the full inventory he never had, in the right order, so you can make a decision you can stand behind without regret, and live one life in full integrity again.
Picture your life on the other side
You wake up in one reality, and it's the one you chose.
You stop rehearsing two futures. You're living the one you decided.
You trust yourself again, and that feeling of knowing doesn't leave.
Direct words from people who worked The Decision-Making Method
(Identifying details changed to protect privacy.)
"Because of this program, that feeling of knowing still hasn't left me, even when it has become challenging. I am clear about how and why I am making my choice for myself, not for either partner. The risks of losing either or both are real, but because I gained clarity I can proceed with confidence."
Laura K.
"I took your course, and it helped me make a rational decision, and not to jump ship at a time where that's what I was feeling. So I THANK YOU for that. Your work is really meaningful and helped me gain and keep clarity. I realized that I needed this experience to force me to grow, to stop running from responsibilities and take ownership of my life."
Jason C.
"Without this program, I would have lost either or both partners, and the family I've created without owning myself and my story. I have a real vision for the future and a sense of purpose that is helping me to show up as who I want to become.
Frank T.
Your 4-Week Path to Personal Clarity
THE DECISION-MAKING METHOD
$997
or two payments of $517
The ground I cover with my highest-level clients at $3,000 per session, all accessed anytime, anywhere, completely privately in four guided weeks.
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The four parts of The Method, on demand
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Video modules that guide you step-by-step
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Guided exercises and prompts in every module
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Concrete visioning practices, for seeing each future clearly
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Lifetime access, all updates included
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Completely private
Confidence, clarity, and a decision you can trust awaits.
FAQs
What does my purchase show up as on my credit card?
The statement descriptor for your purchase is 'LL CO.'
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How long will I have access?
Forever. When you enroll, you get lifetime access to the course and every future update. This work is not something you complete once and close the tab — many people return to specific modules months or years later to reaffirm their work.
Is this right for my specific situation?
The Decision-Making Method is a process built for spouses in an affair — whether the affair is ongoing or recently ended, emotional or physical, discovered by a spouse or not. The work inside is about you; what the affair is illuminating for you, what you actually want, and who you actually are underneath the circumstances. The specifics of your situation do not change what the inventory reveals. The process meets you where you are.
How much time does this take?
The course is designed to be completed in four focused weeks, but you have lifetime access.
What do I need technology-wise?
A computer or mobile device and an internet connection. Everything is delivered through a private, password-protected portal you can access anytime, from anywhere.
Is this private?
One of the most valuable aspects of this course is that it's completely private and on your terms. It's built to be consumed in a way that protects your privacy and process.
I've already worked with a therapist. How is this different?
Therapy is valuable, and this is not a replacement for it. What the Decision-Making Method offers that individual therapy often does not is a structured, thorough guided inventory specifically designed for the decision in front of you. Most therapists are trained to hold space; this process is designed to give you forward motion. Many people who come to the Method have already been in therapy for months. They come here because they need something more specific than what therapy alone has been able to give them.
What if I'm not ready to be fully honest yet?
This is important — and it is exactly where this work begins. You do not need to arrive with all the answers. You need to arrive willing to look. This course is designed for people who are serious about resolving the choice between their marriage and their affair, and it meets you where you are but does require you to be committed to the process.
What if my marriage or affair ends anyway?
The program does not determine the outcome — it determines the quality of the decision that produces it. A decision made from genuine self-knowledge holds, regardless of what it is. That means whatever happens on the other side — whether you recommit to your marriage, build something new, or end a relationship you once thought you couldn't — you will have made it consciously, honestly, and from a place you can stand behind for the rest of your life. Since there are no guarantees in relationships, the solid personal inventory gained from this course is worth everything.
What if I start and don't finish?
If you could gain clarity in four weeks and save yourself months or years of staying in limbo, I want to encourage you to give yourself the opportunity to work within those four weeks. But you have lifetime access for a reason. We understand that life happens and things get in the way, so there is no "didn't finish" — only "haven't finished yet."