Curiosity Killed the Cat

Curiosity can contribute to an affair by sparking a desire to explore something new, whether that involves another person, a different dynamic, or a part of oneself that feels unfulfilled. For some individuals, the prospect of an affair can evoke a sense of intrigue or fascination, particularly if they feel that their current relationship has grown predictable or lacks excitement. This curiosity often centers around the unknown—what it might feel like to connect with someone new, experience different emotions, or live a life outside the boundaries of their marriage.

Sometimes, curiosity about what is "missing" in one's current relationship or a longing to explore unfulfilled desires can lead to infidelity. An individual may wonder if they could feel a deeper passion, emotional connection, or sense of adventure with someone else. This curiosity might be fueled by dissatisfaction in their marriage or simply by the human tendency to question "what if?" and imagine alternate possibilities, especially during moments of vulnerability or self-reflection.

Curiosity can also lead to risky behavior if paired with a lack of boundaries or self-awareness. Engaging in flirtation or emotional closeness with someone outside the marriage might start innocently but can quickly escalate as curiosity deepens. The thrill of discovering something new can override caution, leading to an affair.

What to Do About ItAddressing curiosity within a marriage requires open communication and a willingness to explore new experiences together, allowing both partners to satisfy their need for novelty and growth without stepping outside the relationship.

If you don't feel like you can be open about your curiosity in your marriage, ask yourself why. Begin by addressing that aspect of your connection with your spouse, and work to build the foundation that will allow you to take the next step into honest curiosity. If you find yourself curious, that's natural. It's what you do with it that matters. There's a reason the saying is: Curiosity killed the cat. Have you ever seen a cat get so overtaken by curiosity that it ventures into unsafe situations or conditions without hesitation? I know I have. Don't be the cat.

Pause. Reflect. Go ten steps down the road and ask yourself: Is this really going to give me what I'm looking for?

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Lauren LaRusso // Founder