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How Low Self-Esteem Creates Vulnerability for an Affair

Low self-esteem can be a foundational vulnerability to infidelity, not because someone is inherently disloyal, but because they’re...

Jun 272 min read

The Golden Child Who Has an Affair

As paradoxical as it sounds, an affair can sometimes stem from being too... perfect . Enter the golden child, who spends a lifetime...

Jun 203 min read

Narcissism and Infidelity: An Insatiable Quest for Validation and Adoration

This week's Fidelity Factor is a big one, because the overlap between narcissism and affairs is high . Not all affairs are had by...

Jun 144 min read

Emotional Immaturity: The Silent Foundation for Many Affairs

Emotional immaturity can quietly sabotage a relationship, especially when it comes to handling conflict, unmet needs, or vulnerability....

Jun 83 min read

How Abandonment Fears Can Fuel Infidelity

A fear of abandonment doesn’t always look like a person who is clinging or pleading to be chosen. Sometimes, it shows up as an affair —...

Jun 22 min read

The Affair as an Assertion of Control

I see it time and again: an affair as the way a person reclaims a sense of personal control and autonomy they've critically lost along...

May 233 min read

How a Scarcity Mentality Fuels Infidelity

A scarcity mentality can make a person feel that love, attention, intimacy, or happiness is in short supply — and that if you don’t take...

May 162 min read

Self-Worth and Vulnerability to Infidelity

Unworthiness is one of the quietest, most insidious forces behind infidelity. Shaky self-worth is so easy to dismiss ; "I don't have an...

May 123 min read

The Mother Wound and Infidelity

For many, an affair is not just about sex or excitement; it’s an unconscious attempt to fill an emotional gap. Where did the emotional...

May 73 min read

Infidelity and the Father Wound

The concept of the father wound refers to emotional injuries sustained from a father who was absent, critical, abusive, emotionally...

Apr 253 min read

Curiosity Killed the Cat

Curiosity can contribute to an affair by sparking a desire to explore something new, whether that involves another person , a different...

Apr 212 min read

All It Takes to Stoke an Affair is Outside Interest

When someone outside the marriage shows interest—whether it’s a flirtatious comment, a lingering glance, or simply remembering small...

Apr 112 min read

Is There a Connection Between ADHD and Infidelity?

The Intersection of ADHD and Infidelity Let me be entirely clear: ADHD doesn’t cause infidelity. I repeat, ADHD does not cause a person...

Apr 62 min read

Did You Cheat Because You Were Bored?

Boredom: A Vulnerable Void Filled by Infidelity When life becomes predictable—managing schedules, raising kids, going to work—it’s easy...

Apr 63 min read

When Love Feels Like a Cage: How Enmeshment Can Lead to Infidelity

Have you ever felt like you're losing yourself in a relationship—like your identity is slowly blending into your partner’s? That’s...

Mar 232 min read

The Entitlement Trap: How a Sense of Entitlement (or Lack Thereof) Fuels Infidelity

Entitlement & Affairs: When "I Deserve More" Leads to Betrayal Have you ever said to yourself, " I deserve this " to justify a decision?...

Mar 233 min read

Boundaries: The Most Essential Part of Avoiding Infidelity

Imagine that having clear personal boundaries in a relationship is like putting up a sturdy fence around your home. Without a strong...

Mar 102 min read

What's the Connection Between Substance Use and Infidelity?

Substance Use and Infidelity Substance use can significantly impair judgment and lower inhibitions, setting the stage for impulsive...

Mar 22 min read

Affair That Arise from Realizing What You Want After You're Already Married

An affair often begins when someone realizes that what they once wanted from life or marriage no longer aligns with who they’ve become....

Feb 213 min read

An Affair as a Reclamation of Lost Parts of Ourselves

Sometimes, infidelity arises from a diminished sense of self—a feeling that one’s true identity has been overshadowed by the demands of...

Feb 142 min read

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